CHEATING ON YOUR BEAU

I have always frowned upon cheating.

I know of enough girls who, when they are attached/ married, look for partners outside the relationships. Sometimes, its just for the sex (one night stands or regular), sometimes its the attraction for the other party.

Whichever the reason(s), they are usually unwilling to let go of their boyfriends because the other party is just a fling.

I got this off the Internet, "Cheating Husbands - Cheating Wives" by Ruth Houston.

Listed below are the most common reasons people used to justify their extramarital affairs:

Why Men Cheat (all relate to sex)
The most frequently cited reasons for infidelity among men include
• more sex (the desire for a more active sex life)
• sexual variety (a desire for different kinds of sex)
• opportunistic sex (taking advantage of an opportunity to have sex without the fear of getting caught)
• to satisfy sexual curiosity (about a specific female)
• a feeling of entitlement (the belief that it’s a man’s prerogative to cheat)
• the “thrill of the chase”
• the desire to feel important or special
• sexual addiction

Why Women Cheat (all relate to unmet emotional needs or a desire for attention)
The reasons most frequently cited for female infidelity include
• a desire for emotional closeness and intimacy (someone caring to confide in and bond with on an emotional level)
• a desire for attention (wanting be the center of a man’s attention again)
• to reaffirm her desirability (To feel validated as a woman)
• to re-experience feelings of romance
• a desire to feel “special”
• boredom
• loneliness
• sexual excitement

Men Cheat for Sexual Reasons, Women Cheat for Emotional Reasons
Granted, these are not the only reasons men and women cheat. There are other reasons as well. But the bottom line is that men are cheating on their wives primarily for sexual reasons, while women are cheating on their husbands mainly for emotional reasons. These are the reasons most frequently given by cheating husbands and cheating wives who are willing to discuss their extramarital affairs.
Numerous studies on infidelity bear that out.

In one study, 75% - 80% of the men who admitted to having extramarital affairs said that sex was the primary reason. Only 20% of the women who were having extramarital affairs said they did so for purely sexual reasons.


Interesting.

THE REASON BEHIND MY DISINTEREST

For an extended period, ever since the realisation of my constant disinterest in anyone new, I've been trying to find the reason why. Zac is the last (new) person I've liked.

Michelle suspects that there is something holding me back, perhaps the break up. I dont wish to see a repetition of another regretful and depressing break up.

I guess she is right.

I'm glad this is over for a while now.

HAPPY BIRTHDAY GIRLS!

It was finally a complete clique meet up. Complete only during dinner though.


The birthday girls, Michelle & Wen.


My virgin KBOX experience with the girls was good. 6 people paying the price for 5 was definitely worth it.





As usual, Wen was the butt of our jokes. Her courageous first note was laughed at relentlessly.


Inline with the song....... Wu ding.




Snacks we "smuggled" in.


As expected, by the end of the night, it was only left with half of us; 4 to be precise.
However Fang & Wen's enthusiasm never dies.


After enduring 4 half hours of our dear thick-skinned-think-she-is-a-star-who-is-holding-her-concert Wen's singing (she insisted not to use analogue), we were told to complete our last song at 4am (we thought it closes at 6am).

Wen insists that "we'll only leave after the staff calls us the second time & we'll just pretend that she didn't call us earlier." This, despite seeing several people leaving gradually. She was finally willing to leave after a couple of staffs began peering into the room through our closed door. We were the last ones to leave with the aircon off and only half a shutter left opened. Embarrassing.

Nevertheless, it was fun fun fun!

Happy 20th girls!

LOST GOOD THINGS

The week has been pretty bad, albeit it's the most relaxed I've ever felt in a long while.

With previous excitement surprisingly failing to sustain adequate interest and with the current situation deteriorating, a distraction is the way to go. The best distraction is somewhat similar to the former(s), yet somehow, distractions can never fulfill sufficiently.

The complications just went up another level and I can't figure it out.

MY 20th

Friday: Drinks with the girls at Europa.
As usual, no full attendance but anyway, finger games with very-slow-joanne-&-a-little-better-kendra was hilarious. (I'll make sure heavier punishments are used in future! Michelle & Wen, come 26th!)

Saturday: Dinner, drinks and supper.
In contrast to the shop's layout, Nexus Gourmet at Telok Ayer serves surprisingly niceee food. That roast duck & mango salad.
Villa Bali at Gillman Village is preeeettyyyy! The nature feel with wooden furnitures, cheap cakes and seemingly splendid menu.

The supper was a pleaaasant surprise. And the late-night phonecalls too.

Sunday: Dinner with family.
Good, but with plenty of wasted food.


Trusted cake from Emicakes. This looks ugly but tasted great.

Mon: Lunch at school.
The surprise mini cake and that brown bag!
Thanks guys!