RELATIONSHIPS

is a relationship that is peaceful and fun-loving, or one that is fraught with quarrels and disagreements better?
the former being a stable relationship, the former a strong one, i believe at first thought, most of us somehow wish for a peaceful relationship over a quarrelsome one.

the truth is, the rough relationship may actually be better.
why? because quarrels and disagreements give the partners a chance to go through obstacles together, and this does foster understanding and thus, bonding. it is only through these that enable them to handle possible future bigger crisis together.

however, whether or not the relationship is strong enough in the first place to last through any of those obstacles is another story.

this, i believe, any one who has experience in a relationship already knows.
but how many of us, when faced with such situations, give up almost immediately and secretly wish for the simpler relationship- the one that is peaceful?

a really simple analogy but i like it because of its realisticity.

this topic was in relation to media law tutorial today.
Ms Peters wondered if Singapore can survive crisis since we're currently well-protected because of our half-controlled press.

her relationship analogy made me think about two particular relationships i had.

one was sticky which means much time for each other and inevitably, a fair share of disagreements; the other was the complete opposite.

i was closer to the ex who went through shit with me, my feelings for him were stronger, i was far too comfortable with the same him, and those feelings lasted a lot longer.

we remained close after the break-up, and we're still close now.. the opposite from the other guy.

so, somehow, i do prefer disarrayed relationships.